It is a time-honored wedding tradition for key people to take the floor and give a speech to honor the happy couple. Fathers, members of the wedding party, and old friends have brought tears and laughter to celebrate old times and the new union. Here are some tips on how best to incorporate this custom into your own reception.
Wait until everyone is seated
While there are options when deciding on what time is best for your wedding toasts, waiting until everyone is seated is the best way to keep the room engaged. As your guests make their way to the dining hall after the ceremony, allow some time for cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, and mingling. Once your guests are fed and settled with a drink in hand, it is appropriate to pull their attention to the stage and commence. Here are a few prime opportunities to consider.
- During the meal: If you are not one for waiting and prefer to get the party started right away, now is a good time for toasts. Those speaking may even be grateful to eliminate any waiting, especially if they are nervous in front of a crowd. It also kicks off the party by drawing attention to the happy couple.
- Before the cake cutting: This is a good opportunity to grab the attention of full and happy guests. When the toasting is finished, you can direct their gaze to the wedding cake. Many times, guests can miss the cake cutting simply because they didn’t know it was taking place.
- Before the first dance: For some, dancing is the highlight of the party. Raising your glass and sharing stories about the happy couple is always a positive way to get the crowd cheering and ready to groove.
If your evening is set up to flow gracefully and you have someone to announce the special moments, there are plenty of opportunities to give a toast to the newlyweds. Make sure you have someone to videotaping so you can share the laughter and tears for many anniversaries to come!
It’s a common story. You have been thinking about your wedding since pigtails and princess dresses. But your fiancé, not so much. Now that the planning is underway and vendor meetings fill up your weekends, you may find that the process isn’t quite as blissful as you imagined. Turns out, he has more ideas for your wedding day than you thought!
- Your guest list: Are you having trouble finalizing your guest list? How many people are you planning to invite? Kids or no kids?
- Budget: Are you footing the bill, or do you have help from family? Are you finding it hard to agree on a final sum?
Shop around before you commit to any one vendor and consider DIY projects where you can. If you keep track of your estimates and organize your spending, you may not feel so guilty spending $1,000 more on the perfect dress!
- Other Details: Are you are dreaming of a beach band and your fiancé prefers a DJ? Perhaps you want a table for two at your reception and plans to include the wedding party. Who wins?
Listen and Compromise
It is important to remember that his opinion is just as important. You may be stressed over the planning and arranging most of your meetings but sharing this day and sticking together is what brings smiles to the alter.
- Learn how to table certain topics: If there is one detail that you can’t seem to agree on, take your time with the final decision. Be sure to fully listen to his ideas and allow plenty of time to consider his side. It is possible that as the planning progresses, you may find that his idea works better than you thought!
- Decide if it is worth the argument: If your fiancé has an idea that you are not on board with, decide if it is truly worth the fight. In the grand scheme of things, maybe it’s not really that big of a deal.
- Find a happy medium: The two of you are about to spend your lives together as one, compromising and making decisions. This is the best time to start. You fell in love with him for a reason, and you want his ideas to take part in this important day. Your wedding should represent both of you!