Wedding Etiquette (Who Pays for What?)

Now that we are in the year 2015, many modern day couples make the decision to pay for their own wedding (especially if they have lived together for some time before the ceremony). But traditionally speaking- who pays for what? Here are general guidelines for wedding etiquette showing who traditionally pays for what components of a wedding and activities surrounding it.Wedding Etiquette

The Bride and Family

  • Wedding Planner
  • Wedding Announcements
  • Wedding Invitations
  • Bridal Gown & Accessories
  • Bridal Hair & Makeup
  • Bride’s Bouquet
  • Music & Entertainment
  • Transportation of Bride, Groom, & Bridal Party
  • All Reception Expenses
  • Photographer or Videographer
  • Accommodations for the Bride’s Guests
  • Bridesmaids’ Luncheon
  • Bride’s Party Favors or Gifts to Attendants
  • Bride’s Gift to Groom
  • Groom’s Wedding Band

 

The Groom and Family

  • Bride’s Engagement Ring & Wedding Band
  • Groom’s Attire
  • Accessories for the Groomsmen (ex. ties, gloves, etc.)
  • Accommodations for the Groom’s Guests
  • Bachelor Dinner
  • Rehearsal Dinner
  • Officiant’s Fee
  • Accommodations for the Officiant
  • The Marriage License
  • Transportation for the Groom & Best Man
  • The Bride’s Corsage
  • Boutonnieres for Groom’s Guests
  • Corsages for Family Members on Both Sides
  • Groom’s Gift to Bride
  • Groom’s Party Favors of Gifts to Attendants
  • All Honeymoon Expenses

 

Bridesmaid’s

  • Bridesmaid Dresses & Accessories
  • Transportation To and From Wedding Activities
  • Group Gift to Bride
  • Gift to Newly Formed Couple
  • Bachelorette Party
  • Bridal Shower

Groomsmen

  • Wedding Attire
  • Transportation To and From Wedding Activities
  • Bachelor Party
  • Group Gift to Groom
  • Gift to Newly Formed Couple

 

Guests

  • Wedding Gift to Newly Formed Couple
  • Accommodations for Themselves (hotel, transportation, meals, etc.)
  • Transportation To & From Wedding Activities

Tips for Planning Holiday & Themed Weddings

So, you’ve decided to have a themed or holiday wedding? Great! Not only are you creating a fun and unique environment for your guests, but you are also making your wedding stand out from the rest! No matter what type of themed or holiday wedding you are planning, follow these rules to help organize and plan for your big day:

  1. Themed Weddings Decide where you are having your themed wedding. Location truly is key! For example, if you are having a beach themed wedding, plan on getting married by the shore! If you are having a harvest themed wedding consider an outdoor ceremony surrounded by nature in the countryside. Whether your event will be held indoors or outdoors, try to make sure the setting is cohesive with the theme you have chosen.
  2. Choose wedding colors or accent colors that will complement the holiday or theme. This can be done using flower arrangements, décor, and even the colors of the bridesmaids’ and groomsmen’s attire.
  3. Select décor that highlights the holiday or theme. For example, if you are planning a wedding to be centered around Christmas, consider decorating with angels or poinsettias. Tie the theme in with any and all tools you have! Décor may be the best way to communicate what your theme is, so take time on this one.
  4. Pick wedding invitations that showcase your special and unique day! Your invitations are your guests’ first impression; make sure they get a taste of your theme by showcasing it on your invites!
  5. Consider food and beverages that complement the holidays or your theme. For example, for a winter themed wedding, treat guests with hot chocolate or peppermint spiced cocktails!

 

Most importantly… Have fun planning for your wonderful and big day!

MOH Duties: How to Pack the Perfect Emergency Kit

So you’ve been asked to be the maid-of-honor for a dear friend, but you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed with all your new duties. One of the big MOH responsibilities is taking care of little things on the big day so that the bride can relax without worrying about where extra tissues/lipstick/blotting papers are stashed.

With that in mind, here’s a list of everything you need to pack the perfect wedding-day emergency kit:

● A large tote (in which to pack and carry your stash!)
● Tylenol or other pain reliever
● Band-Aids (useful for blisters or cuts)
● Neosporin
● A few bottles of a water
● Clear nail polish (fixes stocking runs and nail touch-ups)
● Chalk (to cover any last minute smudges on the dress)
● Corsage pins
● Extra earring backs
● Extra panty hose
● Eye drops, spare contacts, and/or glasses for yourself, the bride, and bridesmaids
● Miniature sewing kit w/ safety pins, basic needles & thread, scissors, hem tape
● Scotch tape
● Easy spot remover (Tide To-Go pen or other)
● Static cling spray
● Used dryer sheets (these remove static from hair)
● Granola bars or other simple snacks
● Sunblock
● Bobby pins
● Tums
● Cough drops
● Lint roller
● Hair ties
● Slip-on shoes for the you, the bride, and the bridal party if desired
● Playing cards
● Mirror
● Straws (to keep lipstick looking perfect)

In a smaller bag, you might consider packing the essentials, which the bride might want throughout the wedding:

● Blotting paper (especially for summer weddings)
● Cell phone
● Comb/brush
● Hair spray
● Powder and lipstick for touch-ups
● Tissues
● Nail file
● Perfume
● Tampons/pads

It’s a long list, but keeping the items above handy will help make sure no one’s scrambling around last minute because Michael broke his corsage pin or Christine accidentally stepped on the dress. And you’ll be able to relax, knowing that everything you could possibly need is somewhere in your bag!

Weddings & Kids

outdoor wedding | Edmunds Waste RemovalFor most couples, it’s important that special loved ones, friends, and family are all present for their wedding days. However, many people are often divided on the childcare situation at weddings. Do you have a child-free wedding, offer childcare, provide accommodations for certain age groups? Or some combination of those options?

We’ve put together some ideas for keeping kids entertained or occupied on your big day, as well as ways to share that information to parents or guardians who plan to attend.

During the Ceremony

Nobody wants a baby to cry through the “I Dos”! Offering a Nursing/Changing Room near, but separate from, the area in which the ceremony takes place can help alleviate this concern. With your wedding planner or day-of event coordinator, discuss making an announcement about where this Nursing/Changing area is prior to the ceremony, so that guests know the option is available if their children become uncomfortable or upset.

For the Reception

Consider setting up a different area or activities for children and/or teenagers, depending on how young some of your guests may be. Teenage guests may enjoy a small café area that can easily be manned by a member of your wait-staff. For younger children, consider having a separate room in which they can do arts and crafts, play games, nap, or otherwise be entertained.

You may even consider asking a teenage family member or close friend (or a few, depending on the number or children) to babysit during the reception so that the children will be looked after while the adults celebrate your special day.

If You’re Having a Child-Free Wedding

Choosing to have a child-free wedding can be a hot-button issue, so it’s important to consider the more appropriate way to let your guests know. For an easy solution, address your invitations specifically to each invitee, as some guests with children may assume the whole family is invited.

You can also consider writing invitees’ exact names on the response card, asking them to check “will attend” or “will not attend” beside each name, so it will be clear that “Mr. and Mrs. Peter Brown” are the ones invited. It’s completely fair for you to have a child-free wedding; it’s your day, and you get to decide exact who’s invited.

With the tips above, there’s no need to put “adults only” on invitations, but invited guests will still be made aware that your wedding will not include children.