Thank You Card Etiquette

Thank you card

Presents are one of the greatest of all wedding perks, but sitting down to write thank you notes is not so exciting.  Even for the less enthused, it is essential to show your appreciation after receiving a wedding gift.  Here is what you need to know about thank you card etiquette.

Organize a list

Create a list of items you receive in conjunction with the person who sent it.  Gifts usually include a note indicating who they are from.  Keep these notes attached until your list is complete.  If the item is from a couple or family, be sure to include individual names in your card to show gratitude to everyone involved.

Consider merging your bridal shower, wedding party, and guest lists into one database to make the process more efficient. With this master list, you can note the item beside the person’s name and add a check mark when you have completed their thank you card.


Thank you cards should be sent within three months of receiving a gift.  You have been busy planning, and now you are itching to get to your honeymoon destination.  We understand.  But, when you return, just dive in.  Your guests will be happy to receive your card within a reasonable time.  Plus, it strikes another item off your post wedding to-do list.  The longer you wait, the more daunting this task may seem.

What to say

Finally, the most important piece is knowing what to say.  When writing a thank you note, be personal.  Specifically list the item you received followed by how it will benefit you. For example, “I am grateful for the beautiful photo frame.  It will look perfect on our coffee table with our favorite wedding snapshot.” Follow this statement with another reason why you are grateful. “We really love your style, so this photo frame will bring a nice touch to our living room decor.”  End by using a closing statement with meaning. “We look forward to seeing you soon” or “please keep in touch” along with a personal signature suited for the individual.  If you are thanking your parents, sign with “Love, ….” For colleagues, close formally with, “Truly, …”

The most essential element of a thank you card is expressing your gratitude for the recipient’s generosity. A handwritten, personal note goes much further than a generic statement of gratitude.