Traditional etiquette does not require you to add that sometimes dreaded “plus one” to your wedding invitations. Although, sometimes it is necessary. Here is a guide for determining when a date should be included, and when it is optional.
Married and Engaged Couples:
A guest who is married should always bring their spouse, no question. But, did you know this rule also applies to engaged couples? Take it as a compliment if you catch the soon-to-be-hitched pair taking a few notes!
Long Term Relationships:
If you are inviting a friend who is involved in a “long-term” relationship, consider allowing them to bring their significant other. There are differing opinions over what qualifies as “long-term,” but in this case, you get to decide. Contemplate these factors:
- Are they exclusively involved?
- Are they pursuing their relationship beyond casual dating?
- Have they been together for an extended period of time?
Close friends and family should take priority when finalizing your guest list, so don’t feel pressure to include a “plus one” in this situation. A good friend should support your decision!
Live-in Significant Others:
Couples who live together, but have no finalized plans to tie the knot, should be treated the same as those in a long-term relationship. If you have extra space, let this “plus one” take priority over another’s casual date. But if your guest list is tight, sharing a roof doesn’t mean they can’t spend a little time apart for your wedding!
Each circumstance will need to be considered on a case by case basis. If you face controversy over your decision to not include a “plus one,” honestly explain to your guest why you made your decision. Inevitably, you should share your special day with the list of your choice!