I was surprised the day I showed up for my niece’s wedding only to find out that she had visited the courthouse a month prior to legalize her marriage. Although the information was not public, I thought the ideas behind her decision were too smart to stay hidden. Here are a few reasons why tying the knot before your wedding day could be a wise plan.
If You Must Postpone
Unfortunately, there are events out of our control that require weddings to be postponed. The world was shocked when businesses shut down for COVID-19. If you are in this situation and eager to say your vows, move forward with your “I do’s” at the local courthouse on the date you planned and celebrate with friends and family later. It can be devastating to give up your original wedding date, but this is one way to make the best out of a bad situation. You will have a unique memory of your wedding day for years to come.
If you are planning a getaway on the coast to celebrate your marriage, considering having a small ceremony at home for those who cannot attend. Perhaps you have relatives who are unable to travel for work or health reasons. They will feel extra special witnessing you legalize your marriage before you hop the plane.
A small ceremony at your local courthouse can also help eliminate hours researching and gathering proper documentation to get married in a different state; on top of assuring your license will transfer back home. Let your destination wedding simply be your dream ceremony without the added legal stress.
Yes, the number one reason to go ahead and legalize your marriage it to simply calm your nerves. There is a lot of pressure to make your wedding day perfect. A year of planning, organizing details, and meeting with vendors can be overwhelming. As soon as you close in on the big day, it seems something inevitably will go sideways. There are too many details involved for all things to be perfect. A mix of creating perfection, remembering your vows, being the center of attention, and being inescapably pulled in every direction is enough to make even the calmest bride feel flustered.
A visit to the courthouse relieves a significant amount of pressure. Simply inviting parents or a couple of friends creates a more intimate and relaxed environment. You can recite your vows without feeling like you are on stage and laugh at your mistakes. It is unbelievable how easy-going your wedding day can be if you choose to get pre-hitched. Just think of your big event as a party to celebrate your new marriage, not a day that must turn out perfect.
Once you finally reach the day of your big celebration, here are some tips to help keep you calm before walking down the aisle.
Do you want to get married in the sand? If you are a bride that has always dreamed of a beach wedding here are some things to consider that will make your wedding day a breeze for you and your guests.
Hire a Professional
Planning a beach wedding is not quite as easy as it seems. There are details only a professional may consider, especially if your destination is far from home. Before you start planning, find a local wedding planner who knows the area and the details involved with pulling together a seaside ceremony.
It is always best to have a Plan B in place if you choose to tie the knot outdoors. Take the time to research wedding venues close by. Choose a location that has an indoor option in the event of bad weather. Many people will take time off work and travel for a destination wedding, so cancelling and rescheduling could complicate matters.
If the sun is on your side, still schedule your ceremony in the morning or at dusk to avoid extreme heat. Position chairs in a shady spot facing away from direct sunlight. Be sure to also research the best time of day to avoid high tides and windy conditions.
Call a local hotel and request a room block for your guests.
This helps travelers know where to stay, usually at a discount. Some travelers
enjoy staying close to the wedding party and other guests so they can stay in
touch through the wedding festivities.
Beach weddings are typically more casual than an indoor event. Dress and accessorize for the wind, sand, and sun. Rather than a wedding gown with a long train, choose a dress that is lighter and flows easily. Select attire that will keep you cool and won’t get ruined by a little ocean water.
If you want to celebrate a milestone in your marriage, or just remind each other of your growing love, consider a vow renewal celebration. You can make it an intimate gathering or even host a huge party. Whether you go big or small, here are a few great ideas for celebrating.
Did you fall in love with your honeymoon destination? Plan a return visit! For many couples, taking a trip down memory lane and reminiscing about the romantic newlywed moments is a fantastic to keep the spark alive. Even better, do it in the exact location where your journey as a couple began. While you are there, find an officiant to renew your vows. It will be a treat to compare honeymoon photos with your visit years later.
Many couples who are celebrating a milestone anniversary like to host a gathering of family and friends. These ceremonies tend to mimic an actual wedding, but the possibilities are endless. If you like being escorted down the aisle followed by a seated dinner with dancing, this is your chance! Or, be creative and change things up a little. Allowing time for friends and family to toast during this type of celebration can affirm how you have grown together over the years.
If all the planning causes extra stress, but you are still interested in renewing your vows, consider a more spontaneous option. The Las Vegas strip is filled with Elvis impersonators who would love to take part! But, if blue suede shoes aren’t your thing, think of all the things you and your husband enjoy together. If you like to hike, take it to the top of a mountain and express your unending love with nature. If bowling is your thing, take it to the lanes and ask them to play your favorite song to follow. Making it your own is what really counts.
Marriage is a beautiful thing and deserves to be celebrated. There is no right or wrong way to do it, so enjoy yourselves…and congratulations on your time together!