Wedding Planning Stress? Have a Date Night!

If you are recently engaged, you understand how much time and effort it takes to coordinate a wedding. Did you ever think the planning process would add stress to your relationship? Some think diving into the nitty gritty together will be fun and exciting…only to find themselves shocked when tensions are high. You are not alone! Take regular and scheduled time away for a date night and be intentional about setting the wedding plans aside. Here’s why.

Your relationship is priority. Before your engagement, in the “honeymoon stage” of dating, you couldn’t wait to see your partner. Whether the plan was to snuggle on the couch in front of a movie or take a night out on the town, time spent together was top priority. Make sure you hang on to this idea throughout the wedding planning process. It doesn’t matter what you do – grab a cup of coffee or take a walk, just don’t discuss wedding details. This is time to focus on the two of you. Talk about work, friendships, food, dreams, and the two of you! Time together will solidify the health of your relationship, which will continue long after your wedding day is over. A relationship built on stable ground, trust, and loyalty is one that will stand the test of time. The best way to strengthen your foundation is to devote quality time together. So, put away the cell phones and get busy loving and listening to your partner. You won’t regret it!

Tips for Hosting an Engagement Party

Whether you are hosting a party for a newly engaged couple or planning your own soiree, here are some tips that will help get your planning underway.

The purpose of an engagement party is to gather the couple’s friends and family to simply raise a glass to their new engagement. It can also help break the ice between families who have not had a chance to connect.  If the wedding party has already been established, this is also time for each bridesmaid and groomsman to become acquainted. After all, they will be walking down the aisle together eventually!

Who to invite and how?
Along with family and close friends, it is wise to include people who are sure to make the guest list. Imagine the awkward silence after a co-worker shows up to celebrate only to find out they will not be receiving an invitation to the actual wedding! First, decide how intimate you want the gathering to be. If you are hosting something small in your own home, perhaps you need to stick with close family, the family, along with the wedding party. If you have more space and funds you can start expanding your list from there.

If you are hosting a formal event, invitations are the way to go. If you are keeping things casual, emails and phone calls may be all you need. Be sure you include an RSVP request for planning food, space, and activities. RSVP’s can also help you rest assured that your potential guest received your invitation.

How formal should the party be?
Since the purpose of an engagement party is to simply celebrate the couple, keep the emphasis on FUN. A shower is focused on loading the couple with pre-wedding gifts, so the engagement party can stick with a more casual feel. Keep in mind that your guest should not feel pressure to shop the wedding registry prior to your party.

If you have a theme in mind, let your creativity shine! If the couple shares a common interest, bring it to light. For example, if they met on the running trail, theme your party around sports and fitness. The possibilities are endless and the formality of your party depends on the particular mood you want to set.

What should we do?
The answer to this question is… have fun! If you want to play silly games now is your chance. Otherwise, just toast and mingle. Let the couple be in the spotlight and know how excited you are about their upcoming nuptials!