What to do Right After You Become Engaged

Congratulations on your engagement! This is a very exciting time and you may be eager to get the planning underway. If you wondering where you need to begin, here are the first items to check off your list to get your planning off to a solid start.

  1. Celebrate! Even before you pick up the phone and call your family and friends, be sure you take a few minutes together to soak up the excitement. Now is a great time to pop a bottle of champagne with your new fiancé.
  2. Call your friends and family and tell them the good news! Perhaps your parents or close friends know it is coming, but they are likely eager to get a phone call from you with good news.
  3. Get your engagement ring appraised and add it to your insurance policy. Be sure to do this as quickly as you can. You want peace of mind that your ring is covered from loss, theft, or damage so you can wear it proud.
  4. Talk about the kind of wedding you want to have with your fiancé and don’t leave out any detail. Consider these sorts of items: Do you want a band or a DJ? Do you want a sit-down dinner or a buffet? Do you want to get married close to home or at a destination?
  5. Organize your budget. Before you dive into planning the details you must organize your finances. Have an honest and open conversation with your finance about how much you are willing to spend. Also consider the areas where you are willing to splurge. Now is also the time to find out if one or both sets of parents are willing to help with the costs. Once you have a budget in mind you can start considering where you want to get married and how many people to include on the guest list.
  6. Once you know how large or small your wedding will be, it is time to start drafting a guest list. The easiest way to tackle this project is to include everyone you know and start eliminating based on the size of wedding you can afford.
  7. Individually ask your wedding party to stand with you at the altar.
  8. Decide when you want to get married. This piece is important for planning. If you are eager to tie the knot soon, you need to coordinate a location fast. Many popular venues book quickly and may not have your ideal date available.
  9. Have an engagement party. Now that everyone knows the good news it is time to have a party in your honor. Some couples hold a stock the bar party, which is a great way to fill your bar for the wedding reception. This is also a good time for guests to shower you with wedding gifts.
  10. Create and send a Save the Date card. People will start asking when you planned to get married so they can organize their calendars. If you are planning a destination wedding, it is imperative that you send these early, even as early as 12 months prior to your wedding date.

Ideas for Your First Dance

Some brides are look forward to their shining moment on the dance floor as a newlywed, and some prefer to keep it simple. Whatever your style may be, here are some ideas to help you choose how to incorporate this time-honored first dance wedding tradition at your reception.

Romantic and Sweet

If your preferred style is simple, select a sweet, romantic ballad and commence the dancing with a special moment alone on the dance floor with your new husband. Wait just a minute or two and invite parents to join in.  Then, open the floor for the rest of your guests to celebrate along with you. A special song that represents your love is an excellent choice for a traditional first dance without the extra flare. Consider songs such as these:

  1. “As Time Goes By,” Dooley Wilson
  2. “When You Say Nothing At All,” Allison Krauss
  3. “Crazy Love,” Van Morrison
The Ballroom Dance

If you and the groom want to steal the show, pick a song that you can partner with a rehearsed ballroom dance routine.  Many local studios are eager to help couples prepare fun numbers for their first dance.  You may even be surprised to learn how talented you are! Consider songs such as these:

  1. “The Best is Yet to Come,” Frank Sinatra
  2. “At Last,” Etta James
  3. “Because You Loved Me,” Celine Dion
Choreographed Routine

If you like to think outside the box, take the choreographed idea to the next level. Choose a hip song and create a unique dance routine.  You have the freedom to show off your moves, be silly and fun, or even tell a story.  Your wedding guests will certainly be entertained and maybe even a little amazed.  Nevertheless, it will be unforgettable. Consider songs such as these:

  1. “Uptown Funk,” Bruno Mars
  2. “How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved by You),” Marvin Gaye
  3. “Happy,” Pharrell Williams

Wedding bands and DJ’s have the library and sound equipment to help you make your first song selection and dance dream into a reality.  Just be you…and let the good times roll!