There is no other way to put it, setting up a gift registry
is fun! It is also one of the first pre-wedding items you can check off your
to-do list. Imagine yourself rummaging
through a store to scan dream items that other people will purchase for you. How
could it get any better? Here are some tips to help you get started.
Be Practical. Register
for items you will actually use. Perhaps your parents are convincing you to include
fine china on the list. If it is not something you want or will ever use…skip
it. What is the use of your guests spending money on something that will only be
Find Perks. Naturally,
any store would love to have you set up a wedding registry at their location. They
may even be willing to draw you with benefits. Take advantage! You can find
discounts, cash-back offers, and even free stuff. It is worth your time to
research the perks of registering at your favorite spot. Also, consider places
that offer free shipping. Your guests will be grateful for this added perk.
Compromise. Setting up the wedding registry is something
you will want to do together. Grab lunch and make it a date. If you have opposite tastes, find a way to
compromise. Whether the answer is separating for a short time to include a
personal list or allowing him to select the dinnerware while you choose the
pots and pans. Whatever works for you two is great, as long as you are in it
Be Reasonable. Guest
lists will include those who are willing to purchase the high dollar items and
those who are modest. This is normal. Pay attention to price tags and register
for some expensive and some less expensive options. The point is to allow everyone
on your list the opportunity to contribute.
Be Respectful. Get
the word out about your registry in a respectable fashion. It is OK to add a note
at the bottom of your wedding invitations that informs people of where you registered.
But it is not OK to expect a gift. Traditionally, wedding guests will bring an
item to congratulate the happy couple, and it is helpful for them to know what
you like. It is never appropriate to ask for cash.
Be Grateful. Send personalized thank you notes to
everyone who gave you a wedding gift. Ask a friend to help you keep track of
the items you received if you get overwhelmed. Be sure to name the item you received in you
card and include a line about how or when you will make use of it. Personalizing
a note shows that you care about their gesture in a kind and considerate way.
Once you have announced your engagement to friends and family, it is time to celebrate! To show their excitement, all and sundry will be excited to present a gift to the happy couple. But first, you need to get started with your wedding registry. Here are a few tips to get things underway.
Create a plan
Most importantly, both of you need to agree on the items you register for. That doesn’t mean you can’t add that salad bowl your fiancé doesn’t agree is a “must have,” but is does help to select items you both will use in your first home together. Start with putting together a list of “needs” followed by a list of “wants.” It is easier to begin when you have a prioritized list to keep things in order.
There is so much planning to do, but make sure you create your registry in plenty of time for your guests to prepare too. If your bridal party decides to throw an engagement shower in your honor, it is necessary to have the registry complete a month or so before this extra special event.
Have a variety
Sure, add the practical items such as: plates, bowls, flatware, and mugs; but be sure to throw in a few unique items as well. A handful of guests will prefer to shop for these options anyway. Some will prefer to purchase a few less expensive items, while others may want to buy one large item. Pick options that can satisfy all your guests. Keep in mind, it is okay to register for more items than you need and don’t limit yourself to only one store.
Don’t ask for money
Your guests may find it off-putting if you request a monetary gift. In this sensitive area, it is simply best to steer clear. Anyone who intends to give cash to the happy couple, will go ahead on their own accord. Sure, money is nice to receive, but not so easy to request!
The most popular places to register for your wedding gifts have staff in place to help you get started with your registry, so don’t be afraid to ask for help. And be sure to find time to write thank you notes to the generous people that purchase a gift for your wedding celebration!
It’s becoming increasingly popular to say thank you to your officiant by giving them a special gift. After all, you give bridesmaids, groomsmen, and parent’s gifts and the officiant is the one actually marrying you.
When choosing an appropriate gift, here are some ideas to consider:
Bottle of Wine
No matter what the occasion, a bottle of wine is always a kind gesture of breaking bread and finding common ground. By giving your officiant a bottle of wine you’re gesturing for them to celebrate in honor of your marriage (just be sure to check if they are a teetotaler!).
Many officiants prefer the basics of cash or a flexible gift card. It may seem a little cliché or insincere, but it is a universal gift your officiant would be grateful for. Consider pairing it with a small token gift to add a more personal touch.
Officiants do business the same way everyone else does! A quality fountain pen is a very considerate gift acknowledging their line of work. Fountain pens are great gifts too since everyone will want a quality writing utensil when it comes to signing important documents (like a marriage license!).
If you are very familiar with your officiant and want to give a more personal gift, an engraved journal offers a variety of uses while still remaining intimate. This allows for your officiant to have their own keepsake in memory of your special day (pair with a fountain pen for an added bonus!).
With all of the hustle and bustle going on with your wedding, giving a simple gift to your officiant is a very courteous thing to do. Remember, the gift does not have to be expensive, just considerate. A small token of your appreciation goes a long way for someone so important in your wedding ceremony!