Tips for Keeping Your Guest List Small

Weddings are an exciting event! We understand your desire to celebrate with the masses. We also understand how difficult it can be to invite everyone you want while staying within your budget. Here are a few tips to trimming down the guest list and making the most of your special day.

Start with the must haves. There are friends and family that simply must be included on your list.  You know who these people are, they have shared pivotal moments with you over the years. Start your list with these names first and make sure it includes parents, siblings, grandparents, and close family that cannot be eliminated. Now that you have created, you’re “A list” it is time to think of co-workers, friends, and extended family you would like to include. As harsh as it may seem, it is crucial to prioritize these names to make sure you do not overextend your limit.

Carefully consider the children you plan to invite. Children bring joy and laughter to any wedding, but if everyone on your guest list can bring their kiddos along, your numbers will quickly double. State clearly on your invitations who is invited. For those guests who seems confused or upset with this decision, a one-on-one conversation may be necessary. Communicating that their precious bundle of joy is not the only child left off the list may help ease any frustrations.

Set expectations. First, understand that it is an honor that people want to celebrate your marriage with you. After spreading the good news of your engagement, go ahead and start planting seeds that you intend to keep the wedding small. If this is well communicated from the beginning, it eliminates a disappointing surprise when an invitation doesn’t show up on a later date.

If you find it challenging to keep your guest list small, remind yourself repeatedly that you are not obligated to invite everyone you know. You and your fiancé should create your list first while taking suggestions from parents and other family second. Also, keep in mind that not everyone you invite will be able to attend.

Getting on the Same Page with Your Fiancé – Agreeing on Your Wedding Arrangements

It’s a common story.  You have been thinking about your wedding since pigtails and princess dresses. But your fiancé, not so much. Now that the planning is underway and vendor meetings fill up your weekends, you may find that the process isn’t quite as blissful as you imagined.  Turns out, he has more ideas for your wedding day than you thought!

Biggest Arguments
  1. Your guest list: Are you having trouble finalizing your guest list? How many people are you planning to invite? Kids or no kids?
  2. Budget: Are you footing the bill, or do you have help from family? Are you finding it hard to agree on a final sum?
    Shop around before you commit to any one vendor and consider DIY projects where you can. If you keep track of your estimates and organize your spending, you may not feel so guilty spending $1,000 more on the perfect dress!
  3. Other Details: Are you are dreaming of a beach band and your fiancé prefers a DJ? Perhaps you want a table for two at your reception and plans to include the wedding party. Who wins?
Listen and Compromise

It is important to remember that his opinion is just as important.  You may be stressed over the planning and arranging most of your meetings but sharing this day and sticking together is what brings smiles to the alter.

  1. Learn how to table certain topics: If there is one detail that you can’t seem to agree on, take your time with the final decision. Be sure to fully listen to his ideas and allow plenty of time to consider his side. It is possible that as the planning progresses, you may find that his idea works better than you thought!
  2. Decide if it is worth the argument: If your fiancé has an idea that you are not on board with, decide if it is truly worth the fight. In the grand scheme of things, maybe it’s not really that big of a deal.
  3. Find a happy medium: The two of you are about to spend your lives together as one, compromising and making decisions. This is the best time to start. You fell in love with him for a reason, and you want his ideas to take part in this important day. Your wedding should represent both of you!

 

How to Trim Down Your Guest List Without Upsetting People

A wedding is meant as a celebration for your friends and family to join in on your celebration of love. However, that does not necessarily mean you want to invite your parents’ coworkers, college roommate’s new boyfriend, or old acquaintances who happened to invite you to their wedding 10 years ago. Sometimes, you just have to say “no” to the extra guests. This can be due to exceptional costs or even just preferring a smaller wedding.

Here are some tips on how to trim down your guest list without any hard feelings.

  • Have a Destination Wedding

Destination weddings surprisingly may end up being cheaper than domestic weddings, usually because guests pay for their own flights and boarding. Since not everyone is willing to pay for a vacation to attend a wedding, it cuts out a lot of people who aren’t super close to you. As an added bonus, destination weddings offer a lifetime of memories with some of your closest friends and family!

  • Not Everyone Should Be Allowed to Bring a Plus-One

Even if you don’t plan on having a small wedding, plus-ones add up spatially and financially. So it isn’t always feasible to allow everyone to bring a guest of his or her choice. To handle this issue, create separate invitations with different RSVP responses for those you wish to not invite a guest. That way they won’t have the option of marking “plus-one” or not.

  • Only Allow Children in the Wedding Party to Be at the Reception

Kids cost just as much as adults when it comes to the reception. It’s perfectly okay not to include them as long as you let your guests know that in advance so they can make other arrangements.

  • Invite Only Current and Consistent Friends

Just because you’re friends on Facebook does not mean you’re good friends in real life. When it comes to inviting people to your wedding, you should obviously invite your best friends as well as more recent friends you see often. When it comes to older friends, invite them if you keep in touch with them throughout the years.

Good rule of thumb is to consider whether they will be offended if you don’t invite them to your wedding, and vice versa if you would feel offended if they didn’t invite you to theirs’. You may also consider if the non-invitation will seriously impact your relationship.

  • Co-Workers Don’t Need to Be Invited

Just because you see them Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean they deserve an invitation. Unless you are actually friends with your co-workers and spend time with them outside of work, it is okay to skip the invitation.

We understand you want your wedding to run as smoothly as possible but you shouldn’t include those you feel obligated to invite. You should only Include your special friends and family to help you celebrate!