How to Cope with Wedding Planning Anxiety

A wedding to-do list can seem quite overwhelming. Whether the stress circles around planning vendor meetings, family dynamics, or budgeting dilemmas, wedding anxiety is a real thing.

If your feelings are overwhelming and you are unable to cope, seek professional assistance. If you simply need tips on how to calm your nerves and keep your planning on track, here is some guidance to help along the way.

Acknowledge, then manage.
First, acknowledge your stress! Determine what are your triggers and where they stem from. Are you nervous about family dynamics, budget, everything running smoothly, how you can manage your time, or even a mix of all these elements?

Start managing this stress with a positive mindset. If there’s a problem, you can still work to fix it. If there’s a solution, it can be found. But be realistic and honest with yourself and your partner about your expectations. Then take a deep breath and work through each item one by one. Start with the triggers that are most important to you. And, if necessary, set appropriate boundaries.

The truth is, some of your triggers may be seen as monsters to you, but when you really think about it, you may find they aren’t really all that scary after all. Perhaps you’re a perfectionist who wants a flawless wedding day. But don’t forget to think about your guests and what they’ll actually notice if your plan goes awry. Perhaps you are nervous about your timetable. Then set aside some amount of time every day or week for wedding planning can help you achieve a better life-balance. Rationalize and tackle each trigger item until you have perspective or an action plan in place. Taking power over each scenario will help you feel more in control.

Seek support from your inner circle.
Next, talk to your partner about the stress you are feeling. This is a kick-start for your life together and a great time to begin working through tough situations as a couple, even if the conversations are difficult. Outline your values and create a mutual understanding over how to set priorities or define boundaries. Decide and ask for what you need personally to find the energy to tackle a seemingly overwhelming to-do list together.

If you have a maid-of-honor and trusting wedding party, then they are your support. If you don’t, then now is the time to make your selections and ask for help. Your friends and family are there to help you organize, plan and offer moral support.

Take a step back.
It’s always good to take a break once in awhile to clear your head and regroup. Concentrate on other aspects of your life like family, friends, or work that have fallen by the wayside. Plan a spa day, get a manicure, or find time to exercise. It is possible that you could just need a break.

Lastly, plan a date night with your partner and try not to discuss the wedding at all. Click here to see how planning a date night may just be the stress-reliever you need.

Budget Planning for Your Wedding

Regardless of the amount set aside in your budget, there is no need to be overwhelmingly stressed about finances when planning your wedding.  Instead, gather an understanding of how your funds should be allocated and begin breaking down each cost one step at a time. This simple process can help you take control of your money, your planning, and your sanity.  Here are a few tips to help you effectively manage your money through the planning process.

Ask for Help
Before you allocate funds into specific categories, find out exactly who plans to pay for what. While the conversation may be tricky, ask your family members if they plan to help and how. Have an open and honest discussion about what you need and be grateful for any amount they are willing to donate. It is important they commit to the amount offered before you begin planning specifics. If you are weary of their willingness to follow through, play it safe and start the process as if they were unable to take part financially.

Smart Allocation is Key
Gathering a broad idea of the amount to allocate in certain categories is essential before you commit to vendors. For example, roughly half of your budget will be designated for the wedding venue and catering. When you meet venue representatives, gather a cost breakdown of what is included and make sure it aligns with your financial plan. If not, no need to stress. Instead, find a venue more compatible with your savings. In the end, staying inside your budget creates less angst than spending more than you can actually afford. Here is how to start creating a practical wedding budget.

Manage Your Guest List Appropriately
Controlling the size of your guest list is an easy way to manage the overall cost of your wedding. Less people means less food and alcohol alongside a smaller venue space. This will also lead to savings on stationary, décor, and favors. Here are tips to keeping your guest list small.

Keep Track of What You Spend
Whether you have a wedding budget calculator or just love to create spreadsheets, keeping track of your spending is essential. Be sure to have a “miscellaneous” fund available for any unexpected cost that may arise and don’t forget gratuities and service fees. Here are some hidden wedding costs that catch people off guard.  If you have your heart set on something that you can DIY, give it a shot! You may open up funds to allocate in areas that were otherwise neglected.