Responsibilities of Your Maid of Honor

The maid of honor at your wedding plays a particularly important role.  She is there to help with tasks big and small, calm your nerves when you feel emotionally unstable, and keep the energy positive.  So, be selective with who you ask to take on this responsibility. Here is a list of items your maid of honor will tackle on and before your wedding day.

Host a bridal shower
Many brides have a pre-wedding shower for friends and family to bring gifts before the event. While some gatherings may call for a collection of registry selections, others have a particular theme in mind. Typically, the maid of honor will host at least one of these events. She will help coordinate the guest list, arrange refreshments, and keep of log of what you receive. Most importantly, she is there to help you create positive memories leading up to your wedding day.

Lead the bridesmaids
Your bridesmaids will need to order dresses, attend fittings, show up to certain events, and host a bachelorette party. Your maid of honor is there to lead the way. She can make sure all your ladies have taken care of these details and are there to help you with any extra task thrown your way.

Be your crutch
Inevitably, something will go wrong, which is okay. Your maid of honor is there to help fix any given situation, but also to keep you calm. You have enough stress already so leave the extra burden up to her. It is her job after all!

Outside of unexpected hiccups, she is also there to take over the tedious tasks and details that you shouldn’t stress over. She will even be by your side at the altar to hold your bouquet while you say your vows and fix the train on your dress as you walk down the aisle.

Sign the marriage license
One important, traditional task your maid of honor has the privilege of participating in is the witnessing of your marriage license. Her memory will be with you, documented forever!

Wedding wrap-up
As you take off for your honeymoon, your maid of honor will stay behind to make sure the gifts are taken safely to your home, any items you left behind are collected, and any rental items are returned. It is time for you to simply relax.

 

MOH Duties: How to Pack the Perfect Emergency Kit

So you’ve been asked to be the maid-of-honor for a dear friend, but you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed with all your new duties. One of the big MOH responsibilities is taking care of little things on the big day so that the bride can relax without worrying about where extra tissues/lipstick/blotting papers are stashed.

With that in mind, here’s a list of everything you need to pack the perfect wedding-day emergency kit:

● A large tote (in which to pack and carry your stash!)
● Tylenol or other pain reliever
● Band-Aids (useful for blisters or cuts)
● Neosporin
● A few bottles of a water
● Clear nail polish (fixes stocking runs and nail touch-ups)
● Chalk (to cover any last minute smudges on the dress)
● Corsage pins
● Extra earring backs
● Extra panty hose
● Eye drops, spare contacts, and/or glasses for yourself, the bride, and bridesmaids
● Miniature sewing kit w/ safety pins, basic needles & thread, scissors, hem tape
● Scotch tape
● Easy spot remover (Tide To-Go pen or other)
● Static cling spray
● Used dryer sheets (these remove static from hair)
● Granola bars or other simple snacks
● Sunblock
● Bobby pins
● Tums
● Cough drops
● Lint roller
● Hair ties
● Slip-on shoes for the you, the bride, and the bridal party if desired
● Playing cards
● Mirror
● Straws (to keep lipstick looking perfect)

In a smaller bag, you might consider packing the essentials, which the bride might want throughout the wedding:

● Blotting paper (especially for summer weddings)
● Cell phone
● Comb/brush
● Hair spray
● Powder and lipstick for touch-ups
● Tissues
● Nail file
● Perfume
● Tampons/pads

It’s a long list, but keeping the items above handy will help make sure no one’s scrambling around last minute because Michael broke his corsage pin or Christine accidentally stepped on the dress. And you’ll be able to relax, knowing that everything you could possibly need is somewhere in your bag!

Wedding Checklists

Everyone involved in planning a wedding has a set of duties, and few are more important/helpful to the bride and groom than the Maid of Honor and Best Man—but not everyone is sure what those positions actually entail so here are some you can share with your important helpers.

 

Maid of Honor

As the maid/matron of honor, you’re part industrious helper, part sympathetic listener and emotional lifeboat. MOH duties use a blend of these characteristics, sometimes enlisting you for help with general tasks, sometimes making sure the bride’s needs are being met, and sometimes simply making sure that everything will run smoothly. Here’s a basic rundown of what’s expected of a MOH:

 

  • Lead the bridesmaids.
    Chorale everyone so the bride doesn’t have to. This includes making sure everyone has their dress/outfit, goes to fittings, and finds the right jewelry. The MOH should keep all the bridesmaids in the loop about any/all pre-wedding parties, and is in charge of leading them on the rehearsal and the big day.
  • Plan the bachelorette party.
    This isn’t always the case (for example, if a bride wants to plan her own party she is certainly allowed to), but often it is the MOH’s responsibility to plan the bachelorette party (often with bridesmaids’ help), from the fun activities to the nitty-gritty particulars (time, place, duration, and making sure all bridesmaids reach an agreement about the cost of the event).
  • Host/co-host important events.
    Host the bridal/wedding shower for the bride and attend all pre-wedding parties.
  • Record the gifts.
    Keep a detailed list of all the gifts received at pre-wedding parties and showers, or delegate this task to another bridesmaid.
  • Hold the ring.

Hold the groom’s ring before/during the ceremony (try keeping it on your thumb).

  • During the wedding:
    Situate the bride. Arrange her train and veil before the ceremony and straighten it at the altar. It’s also the MOH’s duty to hold the bride’s bouquet during the exchange of vows.
  • During the reception:

Dance with the best man and, typically, give a toast to the newlyweds.

  • Help the bride change.
    For her honeymoon, if she has different wedding and reception dresses—it’s the MOH’s job to help the bride in and out of these garments, as well as to take care of the wedding dress after the ceremony (if the bride and groom are going directly to hotels/honeymoons). It’s also a good idea to keep general toiletries; foundation, blotting papers, tissues, the bride’s lipstick, as well as water and a small sewing kit for hydration and emergencies.
  • Help enthusiastically.
    Check in with the bride regularly to offer help with pre-wedding tasks—choosing a dress, wedding colors, flowers, cake, decorations, venue—and be an encouraging listener when the bride does make these decisions.

 

Best Man

While the best man duties aren’t quite as extensive at those of the maid of honor, he still  has several very important responsibilities that involve helping the groom.

 

  • Plan and throw the bachelor’s party.
    Much like the MOH, this involves the when and where, activities, and staying on top of the cost of the event.
  • Help with tuxes.
    Including fittings for the groom and other groomsmen.
  • Organize a groomsmen’s gift for the groom.
    This is often, but not always, presented during the bachelor’s party.
  • Keep tabs on the groomsmen.
    This involves helping to arrange accommodations for out-of-towners, as well as keeping them updated on any changes in scheduling and making sure they attend the rehearsal dinner.
  • Organize the departure.
    The best man typically organizes the couple’s reception departure, arranging transportation and (usually) decorating the getaway car.
  • Be in charge of the toasts.
    Organize the order of toasts at the rehearsal dinner and reception. Give the second toast at the rehearsal dinner (after the father of the groom, or the first if he is not speaking).
  • Assist the groom.
    Aid the groom with dressing, take charge of the rings, and ensure that the groom has the marriage license.
  • Manage payments for any participants.
    Handle payments for such things as the officiant, musicians, and caterers. Have the groom put these payments in individual, sealed envelopes with each recipient’s name, and deliver them after the ceremony.
  • Be the driver.
    Drive the couple to the reception if there is not limo/alternative form of transportation.
  • Assist in the couple’s departure.
    Help the newlyweds depart by taking charge of the groom’s tux after he changes, and having their car and luggage ready after the reception.