Ways to Include Children in Your Wedding

Whether you already have children of your own, or just have a favorite niece or nephew that you want included in your ceremony; here are a few ways to make them feel special on your big day.

Give them a distinct role

In weddings past, children have been delighted to take on the role of flower girl or ring bearer, junior bridesmaid or junior groomsman.  These roles are such an honor for children who want to stand up front with the rest of the wedding party.  But, if you want an alternative yet active role, allow them to assist with the lighting of your unity candles. If there is a circumstance where you, the bride, has a son; allow him the honor of walking you down the aisle to give you away to the groom.


Nothing creates more laughter and joy than children performing, and they love the attention!  Have them prepare a choreographed dance and perform it at your reception to kickstart the festivities. They can also sing a special song, give a musical performance, or show off any other talent they want to honor you with. Children can also prepare a toast or tell a memorable story they find worth sharing.

Little photographers

Consider giving the little guys a handful disposable cameras and turn them loose. You will be delighted to see your wedding reception from a unique perspective.  They will find humor and fun in places you may not even look!  Tell them to hit every table and move through the dance floor capturing all the moments they find well-meaning.  Compare these photos with your professional album and see how they relate!


Your guest will be flattered to let a little usher escort them down the aisle to their seats.  If this is a role you allow, make sure they have plenty of practice before the ceremony. Help them to become acquainted with the seating arrangements you have prepared and show plenty of grace when they need assistance.

Allowing children to take part of your wedding ceremony will give you more than great photo opportunities, it will make them feel significant on this important day.  It will also keep them busy preparing for their big debut!