A wedding to-do list can seem quite overwhelming. Whether the stress circles around planning vendor meetings, family dynamics, or budgeting dilemmas, wedding anxiety is a real thing.
If your feelings are overwhelming and you are unable to cope, seek professional assistance. If you simply need tips on how to calm your nerves and keep your planning on track, here is some guidance to help along the way.
Acknowledge, then manage.
First, acknowledge your stress! Determine what are your triggers and where they stem from. Are you nervous about family dynamics, budget, everything running smoothly, how you can manage your time, or even a mix of all these elements?
Start managing this stress with a positive mindset. If there’s a problem, you can still work to fix it. If there’s a solution, it can be found. But be realistic and honest with yourself and your partner about your expectations. Then take a deep breath and work through each item one by one. Start with the triggers that are most important to you. And, if necessary, set appropriate boundaries.
The truth is, some of your triggers may be seen as monsters to you, but when you really think about it, you may find they aren’t really all that scary after all. Perhaps you’re a perfectionist who wants a flawless wedding day. But don’t forget to think about your guests and what they’ll actually notice if your plan goes awry. Perhaps you are nervous about your timetable. Then set aside some amount of time every day or week for wedding planning can help you achieve a better life-balance. Rationalize and tackle each trigger item until you have perspective or an action plan in place. Taking power over each scenario will help you feel more in control.
Seek support from your inner circle.
Next, talk to your partner about the stress you are feeling. This is a kick-start for your life together and a great time to begin working through tough situations as a couple, even if the conversations are difficult. Outline your values and create a mutual understanding over how to set priorities or define boundaries. Decide and ask for what you need personally to find the energy to tackle a seemingly overwhelming to-do list together.
If you have a maid-of-honor and trusting wedding party, then they are your support. If you don’t, then now is the time to make your selections and ask for help. Your friends and family are there to help you organize, plan and offer moral support.
Take a step back.
It’s always good to take a break once in awhile to clear your head and regroup. Concentrate on other aspects of your life like family, friends, or work that have fallen by the wayside. Plan a spa day, get a manicure, or find time to exercise. It is possible that you could just need a break.
Lastly, plan a date night with your partner and try not to discuss the wedding at all. Click here to see how planning a date night may just be the stress-reliever you need.