After the guest list is finalized and you have selected your
stationary, it is time to address and add verbiage to your wedding
invitations. This is a very exciting
process, but there are a few common missteps that you want to avoid. Here they are.
Too much information in a small space.
Have you every passed a sign on the road that had so much
information you couldn’t digest any of it? While a wedding invitation is in
hand and you can focus more on the details, too much in a small space can be a
little overwhelming. It also robs your stationary of its beauty. You want to
find the right balance of saying enough, but not too much. Create a bulleted
list of the essential details and use as few words a possible to pass them along.
Any extra fluff can get lost and jumbled.
Including registry information.
While some of your guests will wonder where you are registered,
your wedding invitation is not the place to list those details. Your wedding
party can help to spread the word for those who ask, or you can include it on
your wedding website. Adding this on the invitation can be a little off-putting
and requesting a gift is disrespectful.
Failure to proofread.
Once you have finalized the verbiage on your invitation be
sure to proofread! Check and re-check, then have a friend check behind you. The last thing you want is a typo or grammatical
error not to be found. Some brides will
even frame and display their invitations, so keep it clean and error free.
Not adding enough postage.
Some stationary is thick and heavy requiring more postage
than regular mail. Rather than purchasing a book of stamps and dropping your bulk
into the mailbox, take your stack to the post office and have it weighed. If you are working within a window of time to
receive RSVP’s, it is essential each invitation is mailed properly. Also include accurate postage to the return
cards. Your guests should not have to supply their own postage to respond to
Not ordering enough.
Always order more than you need! It is unavoidable, there will be mistakes
made that require a re-do. You may also realize last minute that you accidentally
forgot a co-worker or friend on your guest list. Have some extra invitations on
hand just in case.
There is no other way to put it, setting up a gift registry
is fun! It is also one of the first pre-wedding items you can check off your
to-do list. Imagine yourself rummaging
through a store to scan dream items that other people will purchase for you. How
could it get any better? Here are some tips to help you get started.
Be Practical. Register
for items you will actually use. Perhaps your parents are convincing you to include
fine china on the list. If it is not something you want or will ever use…skip
it. What is the use of your guests spending money on something that will only be
Find Perks. Naturally,
any store would love to have you set up a wedding registry at their location. They
may even be willing to draw you with benefits. Take advantage! You can find
discounts, cash-back offers, and even free stuff. It is worth your time to
research the perks of registering at your favorite spot. Also, consider places
that offer free shipping. Your guests will be grateful for this added perk.
Compromise. Setting up the wedding registry is something
you will want to do together. Grab lunch and make it a date. If you have opposite tastes, find a way to
compromise. Whether the answer is separating for a short time to include a
personal list or allowing him to select the dinnerware while you choose the
pots and pans. Whatever works for you two is great, as long as you are in it
Be Reasonable. Guest
lists will include those who are willing to purchase the high dollar items and
those who are modest. This is normal. Pay attention to price tags and register
for some expensive and some less expensive options. The point is to allow everyone
on your list the opportunity to contribute.
Be Respectful. Get
the word out about your registry in a respectable fashion. It is OK to add a note
at the bottom of your wedding invitations that informs people of where you registered.
But it is not OK to expect a gift. Traditionally, wedding guests will bring an
item to congratulate the happy couple, and it is helpful for them to know what
you like. It is never appropriate to ask for cash.
Be Grateful. Send personalized thank you notes to
everyone who gave you a wedding gift. Ask a friend to help you keep track of
the items you received if you get overwhelmed. Be sure to name the item you received in you
card and include a line about how or when you will make use of it. Personalizing
a note shows that you care about their gesture in a kind and considerate way.
Once you have announced your engagement to friends and family, it is time to celebrate! To show their excitement, all and sundry will be excited to present a gift to the happy couple. But first, you need to get started with your wedding registry. Here are a few tips to get things underway.
Create a plan
Most importantly, both of you need to agree on the items you register for. That doesn’t mean you can’t add that salad bowl your fiancé doesn’t agree is a “must have,” but is does help to select items you both will use in your first home together. Start with putting together a list of “needs” followed by a list of “wants.” It is easier to begin when you have a prioritized list to keep things in order.
There is so much planning to do, but make sure you create your registry in plenty of time for your guests to prepare too. If your bridal party decides to throw an engagement shower in your honor, it is necessary to have the registry complete a month or so before this extra special event.
Have a variety
Sure, add the practical items such as: plates, bowls, flatware, and mugs; but be sure to throw in a few unique items as well. A handful of guests will prefer to shop for these options anyway. Some will prefer to purchase a few less expensive items, while others may want to buy one large item. Pick options that can satisfy all your guests. Keep in mind, it is okay to register for more items than you need and don’t limit yourself to only one store.
Don’t ask for money
Your guests may find it off-putting if you request a monetary gift. In this sensitive area, it is simply best to steer clear. Anyone who intends to give cash to the happy couple, will go ahead on their own accord. Sure, money is nice to receive, but not so easy to request!
The most popular places to register for your wedding gifts have staff in place to help you get started with your registry, so don’t be afraid to ask for help. And be sure to find time to write thank you notes to the generous people that purchase a gift for your wedding celebration!