How to Trim Down Your Guest List Without Upsetting People

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A wedding is meant as a celebration for your friends and family to join in on your celebration of love. However, that does not necessarily mean you want to invite your parents’ coworkers, college roommate’s new boyfriend, or old acquaintances who happened to invite you to their wedding 10 years ago. Sometimes, you just have to say “no” to the extra guests. This can be due to exceptional costs or even just preferring a smaller wedding.

Here are some tips on how to trim down your guest list without any hard feelings.

  • Have a Destination Wedding

Destination weddings surprisingly may end up being cheaper than domestic weddings, usually because guests pay for their own flights and boarding. Since not everyone is willing to pay for a vacation to attend a wedding, it cuts out a lot of people who aren’t super close to you. As an added bonus, destination weddings offer a lifetime of memories with some of your closest friends and family!

  • Not Everyone Should Be Allowed to Bring a Plus-One

Even if you don’t plan on having a small wedding, plus-ones add up spatially and financially. So it isn’t always feasible to allow everyone to bring a guest of his or her choice. To handle this issue, create separate invitations with different RSVP responses for those you wish to not invite a guest. That way they won’t have the option of marking “plus-one” or not.

  • Only Allow Children in the Wedding Party to Be at the Reception

Kids cost just as much as adults when it comes to the reception. It’s perfectly okay not to include them as long as you let your guests know that in advance so they can make other arrangements.

  • Invite Only Current and Consistent Friends

Just because you’re friends on Facebook does not mean you’re good friends in real life. When it comes to inviting people to your wedding, you should obviously invite your best friends as well as more recent friends you see often. When it comes to older friends, invite them if you keep in touch with them throughout the years.

Good rule of thumb is to consider whether they will be offended if you don’t invite them to your wedding, and vice versa if you would feel offended if they didn’t invite you to theirs’. You may also consider if the non-invitation will seriously impact your relationship.

  • Co-Workers Don’t Need to Be Invited

Just because you see them Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean they deserve an invitation. Unless you are actually friends with your co-workers and spend time with them outside of work, it is okay to skip the invitation.

We understand you want your wedding to run as smoothly as possible but you shouldn’t include those you feel obligated to invite. You should only Include your special friends and family to help you celebrate!