Who Will Give Me Away?

Brides have been walked down the aisle by their fathers for many generations, and it is a beautiful wedding tradition.  Unfortunately, there are varying situations that leave brides wondering who will fill the spot of “Dad” on their wedding day.  Here are some alternatives.

Close Friend or Relative

Relatives that share a close bond are always a terrific alternative when a father cannot be present.  Brothers, uncles, step fathers, or cousins who have played a significant role in your past are a great substitute. Although, they can’t take the place of a late father, it is nice to have love and support from someone special who will stand alongside.   

If there are no family members that can fill this role, reach out to close friends.  Do you have a best friend who supports you and your marriage?  Remember, this is your day…the friend does not have to be male!  

Walk Alone

If deciding who will lead you down the aisle give you away during your ceremony is not so easy, rest assured that many brides are choosing to walk alone these days.  Simply asking your officiant to leave out the terminology, “Who gives this bride away…” is okay.  Many grooms meet their bride half way down the aisle and complete the walk by her side. This gesture is sweet, romantic, and speaks volumes to the start of a new life together.  If you are choosing to walk alone, but still want to honor your father, carry one single flower or candle to symbolize and honor his presence.

If walking alone is what you choose, note that many brides find this decision to be easier if they keep the decision close to heart before the ceremony.  Gathering too many opinions can become emotionally overwhelming and possibly stir up conflicting opinions.  The choice is yours, and there is not right or wrong answer.   

Whether you walk alone, or with a loved one, remember that you will be surrounded by friends and family who are there to honor your new marriage.